May 26, 2006
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Need Some Advice!
OK, so I just re-read my rant from last night, and it struck me as pretty self-important and self-pitying. My first impulse was to just delete it. But someone had already commented. And, then I started thinking about what the heck you’re supposed to use a blog for and whether going back and editing what were your honest thoughts at that moment was, well, quite kosher. Even if they portray you in a less than flattering light. I post relatively seldom, and I read only my friends’ blogs, so I really don’t know what the common wisdom is. Or is the term “common wisdom” an oxymoron in itself?
So fellow bloggers (most of whom post a whole helluva lot more than I do), what are your thoughts on going back to delete or alter posts about which you have second thoughts (for whatever reason)?
Comments (11)
Unless I say something that’s totally hurtful or just plain wrong, I leave what I write. Part if it is my belief that anything worth stating is worth defending and another is that sometimes when I say something indefensible, I need to learn my lesson. LOL
I periodically change all my old posts to private .. not sure why. Guess I am paranoid that even though it’s my blog and I get to say what’s on my mind making no apologies, I’m still afraid someone will throw it back at me at some point. But then I am a little neurotic.
Well… I don’t think you have to be ashamed of what you wrote. There’s nothing wrong with being the only person that can handle a certain project or group of projects. Not only are you highly trained with the experience that comes along with that, even if someone could conceivably replace you on those projects, they’d take longer than a weekend to get spun up. You’re responsible enough to want to perform in such a way that will lead to your firm making money that will allow other “support” employees to also enjoy bonuses. I was serious about thinking that’s admirable. Doctors are called “providers” within the health system, because they’re the ones that bring in patients who pay money, so all the support people rely on doctors for their money, while the doctors rely on the support they give to be able to do patient care. Most jobs are symbiotic like that and it doesn’t make you arrogant or conceited.
If you want to delete it, though, don’t worry about the comment ; )
If it bothers *you*, take it down.I’ve been known to rant about my DH, but keep it private. Then, after I calmed down, I deleted it.
If you think it might hurt a friend,or your future employment, then don’t post it.
I’m with xenet. If you go back and read it later and you don’t want what you wrote to be public (this *is* a public forum), make it private, delete it, or change it. If you feel the need to be completely true to yourself, make it private – that way you have a record of what you said. It’s easy to sit at a computer all alone and spout off in a way that you wouldn’t if you were in public and surrounded by people you don’t know. I’ve done it a few times. Once, I posted something at midnight in a drunken stupor, woke up at 5am thinking “oh god did I actually post that?”, checked the account, and changed the post, probably before anyone saw it. I have no qualms about that.
If I post something that is simply not true, then deleting is in order.
If I post something offensive, then an apology is in order, and deleting it might seem like a way to be pretending I didn’t say it. Not saying that of you. Just why I’d likely leave the post up, knowing me.
I’ll usually append a post with an *EDIT* but not remove it. Having made the commitment to put words to print, I usually feel obligated to stand by them, or at least explain them.
Hey Cous! Did you know there is a Mazzu Reunion this coming weekend in Beaumont?
What zigfor said… so far everything I’ve written I’ve left up. If I feel different about it later I might add an *edit* but I haven’t felt the need to pull anything down yet. Of course I save my really deep and utterly open musings for my journal.
Yeah, I’d leave it up but maybe add an edit. Unless something was totally inappropriate, which your message was not.
Hey JLM – since the ‘rents moved away from Beaumont, I take some little pleasure in not knowing what’s going on with the extended family there.
You’re not going, are you?